About 30 years ago I walked into an empty pub, bought a pint and sat at a table. This was a ritual of its time - before mobile phones. Either some friends would soon turn up and we’d chat, play darts, choose music on the jukebox and generally have a pleasant evening together, or I’d … Continue reading What For?
Being a good Solution Focused therapist requires the practitioner to view people in a particular way. As Elliott Connie and Adam Froerer put it in their recent book*; ‘What really sets our approach apart is its stance – the position we take about viewing our clients as capable and strong and worthy collaborators in co-constructing … Continue reading The Solution Focused Lens
We recently downsized from a house to a flat (part of the strategy to make setting up my own business viable). We went for the option which involves buying a relatively cheaper place with a lot of potential and using the saved equity from doing so to refurbish it and get the place exactly as … Continue reading This Wall Doesn’t Need Plastering, It Just Needs To Be Smooth!
I’ve been writing this blog since 2018. A LOT has happened since then! Just take a moment to let it sink in… everything that’s happened in your life, in the world, since 2018!… At the outset, I didn’t think too much about who I was writing it for. I just wanted to get my thoughts … Continue reading Who Are You?
I hit 50 last year, and clichéd as it may sound, the fact is I reached something of a crossroads in my life.It coincided with all sorts of shit going down.Maybe that's only to be expected on reaching 50, I've no idea. Whatever.All sorts of shit. Anyway, a year on, and I've finally made a … Continue reading Success
It is that time of year again. Even in a year like no other, there's familiarity at least to be found in the passage of time. The Solstice arrives at the mid-point in the year. Its arrival tends to prompt a particular response in me. I find myself reflecting and thinking ahead. What do I … Continue reading Where Do We Go From Here?
A couple of weeks ago, I moved to an island. I got to name the island, so I decided to call it Chillaxia. I arrived at Chillaxia airport, located on the South coast, in a flying boat piloted by a dodo called Wilbur. I thanked him and made my way inland, where I met a … Continue reading New Horizons
Welcome everyone, especially newly enrolled members of the Solution Focused University (SFU), to whatever this is! I'm going to share with you what the term 'solution focused' really means for me: The first time I met Elliott Connie in person, he said something that made me sit up straight. I heard him say "I grew … Continue reading Something In The Way
I can't remember the last time I made a New Year's resolution. I don't have any intention of making one this year. But I will have hopes for the year ahead. I'll also be thinking about the implications of what I'm hoping for. What I hope for from what I hope for will be in … Continue reading New Year’s Hopes
"Look into your mind’s eye see what you can see, there's hundreds of people like you and me" (Hawkwind; 'Hurry On Sundown') The town I grew up in was renowned for its Friday night street brawls, conspicuous uneven distribution of wealth and availability of illegal drugs. It was once described in a national newspaper, albeit … Continue reading Look Into Your Mind’s Eye
Keep Calm and Solution Focused 