Human beings by nature thrive on interconnectedness. Studies into what makes people happy have repeatedly revealed that shared experiences with other people and a sense of equality amongst people are key*. That being the case, it’s very likely that you are currently working on something with other people, or at least thinking of doing something … Continue reading Forwards Together
We recently downsized from a house to a flat (part of the strategy to make setting up my own business viable). We went for the option which involves buying a relatively cheaper place with a lot of potential and using the saved equity from doing so to refurbish it and get the place exactly as … Continue reading This Wall Doesn’t Need Plastering, It Just Needs To Be Smooth!
I’ve been writing this blog since 2018. A LOT has happened since then! Just take a moment to let it sink in… everything that’s happened in your life, in the world, since 2018!… At the outset, I didn’t think too much about who I was writing it for. I just wanted to get my thoughts … Continue reading Who Are You?
I've got this crazy SF Worm helping with my digestionIt's making me ask all these crazy questionsIt's plucking the strings between my heart and brainI don't think I'll ever be the same again I met a man whose life was in a terrible mess”I screwed everything up" he felt compelled to confessWe had an unusual … Continue reading SF Worm
I hit 50 last year, and clichéd as it may sound, the fact is I reached something of a crossroads in my life.It coincided with all sorts of shit going down.Maybe that's only to be expected on reaching 50, I've no idea. Whatever.All sorts of shit. Anyway, a year on, and I've finally made a … Continue reading Success
Every conversation we have with every other person is a conversation we have with ourselves.Every conversation we have with ourselves is a conversation we have with every other person. 1: Thanks for seeing me, you must be very busy2: No problem1: Yeah, so… The thing is, well… I made a few suicide attempts when I … Continue reading The Difficult Answer
Working in a solution focused way, I think of every session with a client as an opportunity to reach a point of realisation that everything needed to achieve the desired outcome is present. I view any single session as potentially all that's needed to reach that point, and therefore can always be the last session. … Continue reading Hello, Goodbye (ending sessions)
It is that time of year again. Even in a year like no other, there's familiarity at least to be found in the passage of time. The Solstice arrives at the mid-point in the year. Its arrival tends to prompt a particular response in me. I find myself reflecting and thinking ahead. What do I … Continue reading Where Do We Go From Here?
A couple of weeks ago, I moved to an island. I got to name the island, so I decided to call it Chillaxia. I arrived at Chillaxia airport, located on the South coast, in a flying boat piloted by a dodo called Wilbur. I thanked him and made my way inland, where I met a … Continue reading New Horizons
Welcome everyone, especially newly enrolled members of the Solution Focused University (SFU), to whatever this is! I'm going to share with you what the term 'solution focused' really means for me: The first time I met Elliott Connie in person, he said something that made me sit up straight. I heard him say "I grew … Continue reading Something In The Way
Keep Calm and Solution Focused 